Go ahead, take it for granted…

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Lyrics and Chocolate

It’s something often said… Men are all the same. I think the reason for this is that they really give us more reason to believe that than what they give us reason not too. That being said, women are also all the same. So when you complain about the usual stuff there is some common ground.

So when you actually finally meet someone man or women, that is willing to go above and beyond for you and actually enjoy things most others would complain about, would you consider yourself lucky? Would you consider yourself fortunate? Would you then try and be an even better you to accommodate that person? Or would you simply take it for granted? “I am who I am” …Forget that you are fortunate to not have reason to complain?

…. Very sad, but even given everything on a platter without having to go to any effort…

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Thoughts from a man: Men act like children!

thoughts from a man, men are like children
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Regarding housework and child care, men act like children to get out of doing them and to have more leisure time. I understand this is a broad generalization, but I say this because I admit I myself act this way and I know countless other men that do the same.

Ladies, I’m here to tell you when it comes to household duties, men will always get away with what you let them. This explains why even when women who have a full time job outside the home still do the majority of the housework and childcare when they come home from work.

I realize there are rare super dads who may be the exception to this rule, but they’re not common enough, and I hope to be one someday for my wife’s sake. The fact is I just don’t feel motivated to do the housework or child care as much as my wife does. Therefore, I tend to manipulate the situation to get away with more and she usually lets me.

I don’t feel good about it but I do this everyday and often subconsciously. She is the mastermind behind our family and knows how often each chore gets done. She also knows every doctor appointment, shoe size, DOB, SSN, when its time for a bath, what we’re having for dinner, knows when to feed our dog, and never forgets to pack the diaper bag, and probably a hundred other things. If you ask me these things, guess what, I don’t keep good track of it and need to ask her. (I even asked her for help in coming up with these examples….)

This is not because I’m less intelligent or less capable of doing or remembering these things. It is because I make a conscious choice to let her do more of these duties than me. She, like many women, will just grin and bear it, and pick up the extra slack in these areas when we men fall short. They learn this unhealthy gender role from their mother and their mother’s mother’s mother.

I believe my mentality comes from one that was passed down to me from my father and his father’s father’s father and so on. It is the lingering traditional nuclear family values being passed down teaching us that women will do more of these tasks because as a gender they have been for ages.

I know this isn’t right and I’m working on changing it. I realize it’s important to my wife and perpetuating these unrealistic gender roles is sexist and negatively affects our marriage and relationship.

I also don’t want to pass this unhealthy view of gender roles down to my daughter. I want her to grow up seeing that mommy and daddy do an equal amount of work and neither doing an unfair amount of work.

That’s right, it’s unfair that I take advantage of the traditional gender roles so I can have more leisure time. I resolve to start changing this habit today and won’t stop until I erase it from my behavior.

I know I’m not alone in this epiphany and am sure there are other men out there who no longer want to act like children. When it comes to doing our fair share at home, we must stop MANipulating with this outdated MENtality and just be MEN.

Thoughts from a man: Women don’t need us!

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That’s right, you heard me guys.

Women simply do not need us in any way shape or form.

Therefore, it is our distinct privilege if a woman freely chooses to spend her life with us, and that privilege should never be taken for granted.

In this day in age, woman are our equals. They give us life and are incredibly strong physically and emotionally.

To be a real man you must respect a woman’s right to choose. To choose whether she needs a man at all.

Let women have the right to choose if she has children or not, this cannot be expected as it’s not for everyone. If and only if she chooses to share her life with a man, it is her right to freely choose which man to be with. Arraigned marriages were one of the many creations by men designed to control a woman’s choice.

Men that respect women, let us unite. Let this no longer be a world where woman are controlled by men. Let us raise our daughters not to be daddy’s little princess, but daddy’s strong, capable girl.

May societies’ expectations of women be turned on its head. Let strong be the new sexy and let woman gain muscle instead of lose weight. Let arraigned marriages disappear into the history books. Let abuses of women become so admonished by society that they start to disappear. Let there be a new definition of a man in this world. Let women be equals in every single way across the world.

In this man’s humble opinion, a world with more female leaders would be a MUCH more…

Peaceful,
Loving,
Thoughtful,
Caring,
Nurturing,
Intelligent,
Fulfilling,
Happy,

World!

Inspiration for this post: Asian Girl Problems – Finding a Man, Bordering on Adulthood

A Mighty Girl

May all girls grow up to be mighty

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A Mighty Girl

Another good one I found and am sharing! For mamas raising girls!

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A Mighty Girl is the world’s largest collection of books, toys, and movies for parents, teachers, and others dedicated to raising smart, confident, and courageous girls. Visit us at www.amightygirl.com, Pinterest (amightygirl), & Twitter (@amightygirl)
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A Mighty Girl is the world’s largest collection of books, movies, and music for parents, teachers, and others dedicated to raising smart, confident, and courageous girls. 

After years of seeking out empowering and inspirational books for our four young nieces, we decided to create A Mighty Girl as a resource site to help others equally interested in supporting and celebrating girls. The site was founded on the belief that all children should have the opportunity to read books and watch movies that offer positive messages about girls and honor their diverse capabilities.

Girls do not have to be…

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Raise your daughter to become a strong woman

A new dad talking about raising his baby

Being girly is fine
but power is devine,

Girls are taught to be meek
helpless and weak,

Parents control what girls see
shape what they want to be,

Society portraits
girls only one way,

Negative stereotypes linger,
even when women have more
power than men in one finger,

We must change societal perception
women can do far more than conception,

Do your part to help girls see,
a world with stronger women is a
better world for you and me.

Amanda Berry, Gina DeJesus, and Michelle Knight’s Inspiring Thank You Video

The Cleveland kidnapping victims released a video on youtube saying thank you for the public’s support after being rescued from the hell they were in. In this video, Amanda Berry. Gina DeJesus, and Michelle Knight give an inspiring message of thanks and as for continued privacy as they continue to go about living a normal life.

This is such an amazingly positive message and they truly show the triumph of the human spirit. Even though they’ve been through horrible traumatic things, they continue to stay positive and are thankful they are free. What a wonderful group of young women. Young girls should look up to positive role models like them!

Thank you Amanda, Gina, and Michelle for having the courage to do this video and we wish you all the best in your lives!

Here’s the link to the youtube video released July 8, 2013 from HennesPaynterComm: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oG0WePdZoxg

Young girls should look up to the Cleveland victims